Constant grumblers live to perform chronic complaining. If you are one of them, perhaps you should read this article.
When I became a licensed psychologist and counselor, my brother dealt with me visiting his company once or twice a year and assessing his employees’ mental behavior. He wanted to seek solutions to one of the company’s biggest problems — chronic complaining.
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It was set to be an informal feeling where I could go through various departments, talk to constant protesters during breaks, or even chat with typical naysayers up in the hallways.
The goal was to know how protesters who constantly fire negative impact through their non-stop whining and complaining, felt about their jobs, projects, and even coworkers – perhaps distinguish chronic complainers from those who were not.
During my first few visits, constant protesters were a bit guarded about their words and emotions. They did not express fear or sympathy. It’s just pure negative energy and an unwarranted bad mood of expression. These lead to a certain response that one could get stuck with out of sight.
As you must know, many typical complainers saw mental health professionals as no different from law enforcers. It’s not like they are afraid, but rather the opposite. To them, health professionals and law enforcers fail to offer solutions and advice. They picture them as the ones who should not be in control that’s why they shut them.
Chronic Complainer Versus Usual Worker
A chronic complainer knew that I could see through his lies and that my presence could cost his job. But once I established that I was there to help constant protesters and not snitch on them to their big boss, constant protesters grew to trust me with positivity and sometimes even confide their worries to me. They join me in my session.
I wanted to see the perspective between the chronic complainer differently — the person who performs constant complaining — and the usual worker — the person who works and is happy about it. I want to support them by all means.
“It was set to be an informal setting where I could go through various departments, talk to constant protesters during breaks, or even chat constant protesters up in the hallways. The goal was to know how constant protesters felt about their jobs, projects, and even coworkers – perhaps distinguish constant protesters from those who were not.”
How To Spot Potential Chronic Complainers
In my brother’s company, they accepted part-timers and interns of any age. My brother did not care if the positive person was fresh out of high school as long as they were willing to learn and be good to most people in the company.
On my previous visit, I met an 18-year-old part-timer named Jane. She did not know who I was and assumed that I was a senior employee from another department.
She was even nice and sweet once we talked, and then I asked her how her first month was at the company. That’s when a slew of complaints flooded my eardrums. I can’t handle a single point of complaint, what more if there are tons?
Was she one of the constant protesters?
The Frustrating Jane
“Well, you know,” Jane started, “I am still learning everything, but I have a hard time dealing with different managers here. They all have different techniques for doing their jobs, and I was expected to learn all of them. I mean, why can’t they pair up one manager per intern so that my life would be easy here?”
The Overbearing Jane
I tried to understand her through a world harmonious conversation — the chronic complainer. “I hear you, but I don’t see what’s wrong with any of them. Isn’t it good that you have managers who are doing all these things to ensure the project’s success?” I said.
“…chronic complainers were a bit guarded about their words. Many chronic complainers saw mental health professionals as no different from law enforcers. Chronic complainers knew that I could see through their lies and that my presence could cost their jobs. But once I established that I was there to help chronic complainers and not snitch on them, chronic complainers grew to trust.”
“Sometimes, problems remain as problems because we do nothing to fix them. Things may get better if you speak up during work,” I advised.
Insights About Compliance For Chronic Complainers
I was no longer shocked when I did not see Jane anymore on my next visit. That’s how typical naysayers usually act – typical naysayers could be excellent at airing out their issues and complaints, but typical naysayers are awful at listening to suggestions.
What’s my advice to all the young individuals who want to succeed in life? Please don’t be like Jane and break the cycle.
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